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#9 “BDSM.”

BDSM is a term created to include a group of practices and erotic fantasies. They are the abreviations of:

  • Bondage and Discipline.
  • Dominance and Submission.
  • Sadism and Masochism.

Therefore, covers a series of practices and sexual interests linked and related to what is called alternative sexualities..

SSC
BDSM relationships must follow a “SAFE, SANE AND CONSENSUAL” SSC mode in their practices:

  • SAFE: Regarding the necessary knowledge about its development and about the material used, as well as about the prevention of risks.
  • SANE: Regarding the reasonable ability of decision by the actors, not altered by drugs or beverages and according to the experience of each participant, knowing how to differentiate between fantasy and reality.
  • CONSENSUAL: Taking in account that participants agree on the way and intensity with which they are made, and that the agreement also can be canceled at any time.

SAFEWORD:
Given that many of the situations during a session contain elements of fantasy and role, and that in some of them the “PROTEST” of the submissive participant was staged, it was necessary to create a communication system that would allow this to make clear the moment in which his protest was real and amounted to the desire not to CONTINUE. And it was necessary that the dominant could clearly perceive this desire and differentiate it from the staging of “NO, NO MORE !”, Which could be part of the agreed sexual game. The solution was the so-called “SAFEWORD”. It can be a word of quick diction and sound like “STOP”.

The WORD-CODE, also so-called, is used by the submissive party to indicate quickly that the grade, circumstances or activity that is being developed is not of their liking and that they wish to stop. The ethics of the BDSM prefix that at all times the DOMINANT PARTY WILL RESPECT and will interrupt the activity.
The safeword should not contain phonetically faint sounds, to avoid misunderstanding with background music. Neither should it contain the vowel “i”.

BONDAGE AND DISCIPLINE

  • BONDAGE: Subjection that certain links imply, in certain relations of subordination. In previous centuries, united masters and slaves, it is associated with ropes or other constraint elements, which are often used in BDSM. The erotic practices related to bondage are properly those that establish roles, with the constraints and restrictions for erotic purposes.
  • DISCIPLINE: Erotic practices related to rules, punishments, training, behavioral protocols, postures according to the circumstances, etc

DOMINATION Y SUBMISSION

  • DOMINATION: Erotic practices in which a person adopts a dominant role to act according to his will and his desire over one or more persons who adopt a submissive role. The person in the dominant role commands and disposes. It is always a dominating constantly subject to consensus and the limits set by the person who accepts to be dominated. BDSM rejects all practices of domination, however small, that is, that it does not have the current consensus of the dominated person.
  • SUBMISSION: Erotic practices in which a person adopts a submissive role where he remains under the will of one or more other people who take a dominant role. It is the complementary situation of domination, therefore often speak of D/s relationships. The person in the submissive role obeys or allows action on his or her body. It is always a situation of voluntary submission, within the framework of the limits set by the person who adopts the submissive role.

SADISM Y MASOQUISM

  • SADISM: Erotic practices in which a person gets pleasure causing pain, humiliation or discomfort to another person who accepts that situation. It is always about voluntary practices that can not go beyond the limits established by the person who receives pain, humiliation or discomfort, and which can be stopped at any time. The person who adopts the sadistic role, CARES at all times the situation of the person receiving the pain, humiliation or discomfort, in order to avoid any harm.
  • MASOQUISM: Erotic practices in which a person gets pleasure experiencing pain, humiliation or discomfort, usually at the hands of another person who accepts that situation. It is always about voluntary practices that can not go beyond the limits established by the person who receives pain, humiliation or discomfort, and which can be STOPPED at any time.

PRACTICES:

Given the diversity that characterizes to BDSM, it is difficult to make a description of the practices that most frequently occur in such relationships.

AMONG THE MOST COMMON BDSM PRACTICES THERE ARE:

  • Bondage, ritualized attachments
  • Wax.
  • Tweezers.
  • Rituals of Submission.
  • Rituales of Humiliation.
  • Flagellation (Flogging) or erotic torture.
  • Controlled and generally limited sexuality.
  • Use of certain signals (submission and domination collar, rings, bracelets)
  • Equestrian dominance.
  • Exhibition
  • Dress code.
  • Erotic breastfeeding.
  • Extreme sex practices (fisting, golden rain, silver rain, Roman rain, etc…).

OTHER PRACTICES:

  • Worship of footwear.
  • Trampling.
  • Tease and denial.
  • Food job.
  • Food fist fucking.
  • Fist fucking.
  • Ballbusting.
  • Smoke.
  • Tweezers and pliers.
  • Gags.
  • Spanking.
  • Asphyxiation.
  • Strangulation.
  • Medical
  • Sensory deprivation.
  • Worship of the mistress.
  • Control over the submissive (change of name for permanent sessions).
  • Property marks (jewelry, necklaces medallions etc).
  • Postures.
  • Chastity belt.
  • Cleanliness rituals.
  • Education and exams.
  • Domestic service.
  • Rent the slave to another mistress.
  • Exhibition of the slave.
  • Animalism.
  • Hospitalization.

Many of the practices and uses do have a common importance, such as the collar, the initiation ceremonies, the rings, the marks and tattoos, the clothes and the code signals,

Kisses,

Valentina♡